Benoit Akoa
CHILDRENS' SAFETY OVER THE INTERNET
While a child may be hesitant to give out his/her home phone number, the computer-sex offenders will give out theirs. With Caller ID, they can readily find out the child's phone number. Some computer-sex offenders have even obtained toll-free 800 numbers, so that their potential victims can call them without their parents finding out. Others will tell the child to call collect. Both of these methods result in the computer-sex offender being able to find out the child's phone number.
Your child receives mail, gifts, or packages from someone you don't know.
As part of the seduction process, it is common for offenders to send letters, photographs, and all manner of gifts to their potential victims. Computer-sex offenders have even sent plane tickets in order for the child to travel across the country to meet them.
Your child turns the computer monitor off or quickly changes the
screen on the monitor when you come into the room.
A child looking at pornographic images or having sexually explicit conversations does not want you to see it on the screen.
Your child becomes withdrawn from the family.
Computer-sex offenders will work very hard at driving a wedge between a child and their family or at exploiting their relationship. They will accentuate any minor problems at home that the child might have. Children may also become withdrawn after sexual victimization.
Your child is using an on-line account belonging to someone else.
Even if you don't subscribe to an on-line service or Internet service, your child may meet an offender while on-line at a friend's house or the library. Most computers come preloaded with on-line and/or Internet software. Computer-sex offenders will sometimes provide potential victims with a computer account for communications with them.
Tips for adults seeking online relationships
If you are in / interested in being in, an online relationship, it is important to know the warning signs of a potentially bad candidate so you don't get hurt -- physically and or emotionally. The advice you'll find below is meant for you to use as a way to help protect yourself all sorts of pain, anguish and posibly death. These tips are mostly common sense, though sometimes we are blinded by what we want and reading about the signs somewhere helps ring those warning bells.
This can be something as simple as the person is insecure with giving out
information about themselves, to the person being married or living with someone else.
Person is often flirting with other people online.
Just as in real life you can find "players" online. Watch how your online interest
interacts with others. You'll learn more about them, as well as be able to spot any
unusual interests.
Person wants too much information about you right away.
Unless you are 100% completely comfortable about this person, don't give away any personal
information. Even then, it is a good idea to keep important information to yourself.
(if they do this - they are PROFILING you,
MIRRORING you and BRAINWASHING you!)
Person seems only interested in cyber or phone sex.
Unless this is something you are interested in, this relationship is probably not going very far.
(If they don't want to meet for lunch or dinner or spend any time with you - if they live
close - ditch them. They are using you like an "online hooker".)
After trust has been established, person will only give you a pager or cell phone number,
but not a home number. This again could just be precautionary, but again, it could indicate a
cheating heart. (married or involved?)
After enough time has developed,
person is adamant about not meeting in person.
The reason for this could range from the person hiding something about their physical self,
their lifestyle, other romantic involvement's, or just protecting themselves.
(excuses can range from "I don't think I can control myself with you" to "I don't go out/ have time"
to "I don't think its a good idea")
Person wants you to move to local area or in with them after only one or two meetings.
While my husband and I broke this rule, I strongly urge other couples to really get to know
each other in person. It worked out well for me, but if follow this advice you will find yourself
more confident about your choices if you really take the time to know them in person before deciding
to make the big traveling step.
You find the person posting other personal ads online.
An obvious heartbreak!(especially if they are posting at BangMatch.com or Eroticy.com, etc.... sex
partner sites, while trying to lure YOU into and keep you in an EMOTIONAL
relationship online so they can use & manipulate you further)
Person keeps e-mails from other people hidden or a secret.
Something to keep an eye out for. Any relationship that begins or is involved in secrecy
has has numbered days.(OR...... they tell you not to talk to so & so online and you later find
they told the other person not to talk to YOU either!! and give each of you bogus reasons to no
longer talk. If THAT happensMAKE IT YOUR BUSINESS TO CONTACT THE OTHER PERSON IMMEDIATELY!!)
Person asks for money or other help or even suggests they are broke.
You may feel comfortable with this, but it's not a good idea, especially if your just met them.
Don't open yourself to a potentially huge loss.
Person won't let you mail cards or other gifts to home address.
This is also another sign of a possible romantic interest living with them.
Take the extra precautions to make sure your online interest is not already involved with someone.
(they won't even GIVE you a home address! Run!)
Every tip is dependent upon your instincts. What is good for one person may not be good for the next.
Use your head, and your instincts. If something doesn't feel right, question it and resolve it quickly.
You may discover it was a case of doubt, but you may also discover it wasn't!
HARD COVER 
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